I recently read an advice column about a couple who frequently bickered about money. The husband and wife disagreed about whether to pay off their mortgage. One wanted to pay it off faster and have the peace of mind that comes with reducing debt. The other wanted to take advantage of the tax write-off the mortgage interest brings while spending money on current needs and wants.
Money issues, unfortunately, are near the top of the list for why marriages fail. This is because money, and how it’s spent, affects our lives on a daily basis. Money and the things it can buy have a big influence on the way we view ourselves and, often, on how others see us. Which is more important to you, a new car or more money in the bank? A home with more bedrooms or a bigger retirement account?
Marriage is often about compromise. Communication is often the key. But in many cases, there is conflict and spouses can’t come to an understanding or agreement. One spouse may be so focused on frugality that the family is deprived of simple pleasures. On the other hand, spending beyond the family’s means often leads to unnecessary debt and, ultimately, financial ruin.
If this is an issue with you or someone you know, this may be the time to consult with a financial planner. Financial planners have the tools and training to help couples develop financial guidelines that will help them come to an agreement that both can live with. Creating a financial plan together may show a way for a compromise between parsimony and extravagance.
If you find yourself arguing over money, give us a call. We may be able to help you resolved your differences.